Friday, March 11, 2005

"the call"

I got a call from my sister Jessica today. I guess the trip I took to the block last week did what I wanted it to. I wanted my sister to take my daughter for the weekend. Anna needs James (her father) in her life. Maybe she will see that the way they live is not the way that she wants her life to be. Anna's father is a thief and lies about everything. He has in the past been addicted to heroin. I can see Anna following his footsteps and I do not want that to happen. I know that he is doing better now. The only fault that I have with him now is that he does not pay his child support and that he is married to my sister(they deserve each other).

Jessica wanted me to go out to the strip club she works at so we could go "hang out". I am not sure why she thinks that I want to be her friend. She did tell me that James was locked up for non payment of child support.......FINALLY I GET JUSTICE!!! I checked on the computer and they have not sent a check out yet but the credit is showing on his account. Now he "only" owes $6,900. My sister is raising his son for him while he works. I guess he don't work hard enough for me to get child support on a regular basis.

I told Jessica that she can get Anna next weekend for the whole weekend. I need some free time and they need to start taking responsibility for her. I did get there phone number and address so I can make sure child support has his correct information. I am also going to make a letter to send to child support once a week when I do not get a check. I will bug child support so much that they will have to take action about him not paying his support.


Anonymous honestyrain said...

oh it's got to be hard dealing with a crappy ex and maybe his being married to your sister makes that a little easier? you know, because at leasy you know what you're getting in the new wife? good for you sticking to demanding your child support and that he take an active parental role.

2:47 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Thanks for stopping by.

I try to keep away from my family as much as possible but he has to take care of Anna and I think my sister can make that happen. I still think she was wrong to be with him:( She don't care what I think or she never would have got with him in the first place.

7:52 AM  
Blogger MommaK said...

Holy crap. You're one mighty strong woman. I think I would have to be committed if my husband married my sister. I have a hard enough time dealing with his first wife and being a step mom without family ties coming into it.

I raise my coffee mug to you girl. You are an example to us all.

BTW- I'm here through the Michele meet n greet. Hope you have a great Sunday:-)

9:03 AM  
Blogger J&J'sMom said...

Way to stick to your guns girl! I'm with Momma K...I don't think I could deal having my ex-married to my sister...I might end up in jail myself! Your daughter (and what a beautiful name Anna is BTW) has a great role model in you! Stay strong!

Oh, Michele's game sent me!! Have a better week!

9:31 AM  
Blogger Dawn said...

I have been dealing with this for over a year now. Nothing anyone in my family does comes as a shock to me anymore.

I love the my daughters name. When I was a little girl my friends name was Anna and we thought it was so cool that we could spell her name forward or backwards and it was still the same. That is why I named my daughter Anna. Cool hu?

ladies thanks for your comments.

10:38 AM  
Anonymous notyourtypicalsouthernbelle said...

Hi there! Michele sent me.

Man, it pisses me off when bio dads only want to take responsibility for their kids when it is convenient for them.

I am glad my ex pays child support, but now that my sons are growing up, I wish he would be a bit more flexible with visitation since their plans are starting to interfere with visitation sometimes. In other words, he'll let me keep them an extra weekend spur of the moment, but he won't make up for it, I have to have the boys stay home with me until the next regularly scheduled visit. Ugh.

12:26 PM  
Blogger Kathy said...

At least you have Anna. Your ex and your sister sound like a bunch of losers. You are a strong person. Oh, here via Michele!

2:15 PM  
Blogger Cara said...

I curious to know what state you live in. I reside in Missouri but was raised in the state of Texas. The law in TX is that when a couple divorces the parent who is paying child support has it garnished from his wages by the state. I think it goes through the district attorney's office and then the DA's office cuts the parent a check. If for some reason the parent paying child support can't have his wages garnished or he changes jobs and doesn't pay..the first punishment is having their drivers license suspended for 6 months. I don't know what they do to 2nd and 3rd offences.
I, too, take my hat off to ya...I would have a fit if my sister married my ex husband. But, it sounds as if they deserve each other.
Good luck with your ex and your may turn out that it's better off for Anna not to see his father. Sometimes a single parent has to make that tough decision.
I'm here via Michele's but I'll be back to read more on my own!! Take care!

3:18 PM  
Blogger JaG said...

I just sent you the Cutey manual!! Let me know if you have any trouble with it.

3:34 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

I went through the same visitation problems as you have also. Luckily the girl before my sister would not let him see Anna. Good luck! I know what your going through.

Thanks for your comment. James and my sister deserve each other. I'm glad she has to deal with him now and not me.

I live im Maryland and James did have a job before we went to cour for child support but quit so they could not take his money. The job that he had was his first and only "real" job he has had int he 9 years that I have know him.

He spends most of his time in jail.

4:03 PM  

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