Saturday, May 14, 2005

Poor Jessica

I guess she wants sympathy from me.....it will not happen! My sister Jessica called yesterday to see if "they" could get Anna this weekend. They do not know the real reason why Anna is not going over there. As far as I am concerned there is no reason for me to let them know what I found. He knows what he did and maybe one day he will find out that I know....until then I will keep it to myself. I have learned to not lay all my card on the table when I comes to my family and to James.

Anyways, Jessica started crying that everyone hates her and it is not fair. She told me that she has been clean and does not smoke crack anymore (that is the first time she has ever said that to me). I told her I did not know what she wants from me. She was crying uncontrollably on the phone but she can turn her tears on and off like a faucet. Jessica told me that I have screwed everyone over in the family (whatever) and they still talk to me. I informed her that the only people that in need in this work live under my roof and I could care less if my family ever talked to me again (in fact I would prefer that).

So it all comes down to her saying this:

Poor Jessica~no one loves me
Poor Jessica~but I am clean now
Poor Jessica~I had a boyfriend who beat me up
Poor Jessica~I was locked up
Poor Jessica~I have to strip for money
Poor Jessica~I have to take care of a child that is not mine (Baby James)
Poor Jessica~had no where to live (what a lie)
Poor Jessica~Dawn has everything and I have nothing!
Poor Jessica~James make me strip and takes all my money
Poor Jessica~Dawn wants my man to pay child support for Anna (OMG! He is the father you know)

I could go on and on but why? I think you get the idea. I could argue every point Jessica made but I don't feel like it today. I will say that Jessica was homeless because that it how she wanted things. She had a place to live many times but she wanted her life and she got it. No sympathy here! I just don't care.

26 Comments:

Anonymous Melody said...

Your post should be re-named Poor Dawn. Your sister has too many problems, but then you don't need me to point this out to you...

Keep on doing what you are doing.

BTW, I'm here via Michele...

Cheers :)

7:34 AM  
Blogger vegemiterules said...

Hugs Dawn,

You sound like a strong woman, I agree with Melody, do what you are doing and always remain true to yourself.

xoxo

7:37 AM  
Blogger vegemiterules said...

Ooops sorry mate, came via Michele's M&G this time, but I visit of my own accord anyway xoxo

7:38 AM  
Blogger Dawn said...

melody~
Thanks for stopping by! I don't think she will ever learn....all she wants is sympathy.

vegemiterules~
I don't let her bother me anymore. I know what mind games she like to play and I don't have time for that.

7:57 AM  
Blogger Angie said...

It's just too bad that you have to put up with her crap! It's good that you don't let her bother you anymore, though.

Here via Michele today. :)

8:19 AM  
Blogger -xtessa- said...

OMG... i hope you're okay. i wouldn't know what to do if i were in your position. just stay strong...

thanks for dropping by my blog... hope my little quips make you feel better somehow.

8:32 AM  
Blogger Dawn said...

angie~
I have learned to not let her bother me anymore. I had many years when I let her bring me down but not anymore.

xtessa~
I am OK...she is the one that needs some help. It seems like no matter how much I have tried to help her it is just not ood enough and noe I have nothing left to give to her.

8:39 AM  
Anonymous Tamara said...

obviously, you have to do what's best for Anna, and not for poor jessica. Good for you for sticking to your guns.

Here from Michele's meet and greet!

12:00 PM  
Blogger phoenix said...

Hi from the M&G and it sounds like your sister is trying to add herself to your list of children... don't let her!

Stay strong and all will be ok :)

12:20 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

tamara~
Thanks for the comment:) I know who is important in my life and that does not include Jessica

phoenix~
LOL! I guess that is one way to look at it. Thanks for stopping by.

1:19 PM  
Anonymous Tamara said...

Hrm.... I back, and my opinion still holds!

from Michele's. Of course!

1:23 PM  
Anonymous Claire said...

Hi Dawn, every time I read about your sister I just want to scream! I think you're doing such a tremendous job staying strong and not letting her get to you. It just goes to show you are the better person!

1:53 PM  
Blogger annie said...

OK, forgive me cuz I have not been coming here long, I've read back a few times over your story of James, and I wondered not long ago why your sister AND James wanted to have Anna, but maybe I missed something; James is now with your sister? your "real" sister?

Either way, from what you just said she is not a stable person with the crying and "not fair" stuff. How old is she? 12?
And "not smoking crack anymore", to some people that means, like, not since last night.

2:03 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

tamara~
welcome back.

claire~
I try my best to be better than her but it does not take much effort.

annie~
Yes! James is now married to my real sister. Jessica is 20 and James is 32 I am 27. I don't think she clean and I am sure he is right there with her although his drug of choice has always been herion.

2:21 PM  
Blogger aka_monty said...

Hiya Dawn! I'm here via Michele (this time) :)
Good on you for not letting your baby go with THEM. Grrr.

*hug*

3:01 PM  
Anonymous Lucy Jane said...

Hi, Michele sent me.

Poor girl is always a victim eh? I just got rid of one of those in my life, and a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.

take care
Lucy Jane

3:36 PM  
Blogger Crazy Single Mom said...

families can truly be a burden at times!!! Ever just want to run away from them forever???? Thanks for stopping by my blog, I keep forgetting to add you to my blog roll, gonna do it before this weekend is over though!

3:41 PM  
Blogger Cori said...

Thanks for stopping by- So I came over here to a boat load of sister sh**! let her world wind continue and just keep trying to stay out of it. She wants you in it. Just stay focused and don't let her suck any energy from you! good luck!

5:17 PM  
Blogger melodyann said...

I have a brother who is similar. Poor Mark, everything that happens to him is someone else's fault.

here via michele

7:40 PM  
Blogger annie said...

That's is just SOOooo messed up, Dawn. Can't you move far, FAR away from these nuts??? I would forget they ever existed. But I'm good at that.

Don't play their game, whatever you do.

9:07 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

aka monty~
I have to protect my baby even if the courts don't care.

lucy jane~
I guess my title says it all...

crazy single mom~
thanks for adding me to your blogroll. I have tried to run but they keep tripping me:(

cori~
I stay away as much as I can...she is not worth my time anymore.

melodyann~
So you know what I am talking about....the poor me routine is really getting old.

annie~
When ever I play games I have to win...I am such a sore loser! :)

9:22 PM  
Blogger ~Stephanie~ said...

Girl I am so feeling this blog..your sis sounds like my mom..Grrr...She told me like all my life she was clean but it was all BS..I told her like the last time I talked to her ( almost 2 years ago) that when she has been clean for 2 years and has been to rehad to holla at me then but, I am like you I do better when I dont talk to them back home..I am thankful that my hubby is military and we are far away..
you are a strong woman i must say


:~)

9:51 PM  
Anonymous chatty said...

You don't have to care what she thinks. Protection of your family is number one. And does she know this little gem? That would be reason number two for me.

6:53 AM  
Blogger Dawn said...

stephanie d~
It sounds like you have your stuff together and you really don't need that in your life. It is their loss not yours!

chatty~
My sister has some major issues and so does my ex (her husband). I am better off without them:)

7:36 AM  
Blogger scrappintwinmom said...

hey dawn -

I have a friend who (under similar circumstances) simply refuses to deal with the drama anymore. She says she no longer has tolerance for it, and I don't blame her.
ps. followed the link - THAT'S JAMES??? what a punk.

9:17 AM  
Blogger Nic said...

Dawn, good for you for standing your ground! I applaud you in your efforts to keep Anna safe. You have my support. :)

12:04 AM  

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